Good point, Chrome. It's hard to think clearly when you are being constantly met with rejection and that physical need is not being met. An outright sexfest seems like the cure.
This is precisely where I and many of the men on this board and some of the women are, and what really keeps us stuck. I know for me it is a constant battle between the chemicals that say NOW!!! and the logic that says "kind-hearted patience and dedication will win in the end." An outright sexfest would go a long way. When my W had her brief explosion almost a year ago, after about 2-3 days of that, suddenly everything seemed so easily solvable. But then it stopped, and unfortunately that juxtaposed with seeing OW again.
I've gone back and read over NOPkins old posts, and even that guy, who seems like now he could take a shotgun blast to the face and it wouldn't faze him, was pouring out anguish all over the board. Even started one post with something like "don't read this if you want to be happy" or something like that.
Us stuck guys just need to get where he and BF and csw got, but while they had it before the bad times, I've never had it. Nothing like trying to learn how to fire a gun after you've been dumped in the trenches. Of course, whining about it doesn't do me any good either, except that whining here helps me not to whine at home.
Chrome ... who seconds the motion for an outright sexfest for everyone on this board with their respective SOs
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
