My H won't let go of the EA part of what was once a PA either. It's driving us apart because he doesn't think it's "as bad". I told him any emotional relationship with OW that makes him withold info from his wife is destructive to the M.
Like you all said - OW builds up their egos by buying gifts, doing nice things for them, telling them how wonderful they are, how much they are cherished, and I'm sure how ridiculous their wives are for not worshipping the ground they walk on.. Maybe if these OW put this much attention into their own marriages, they wouldn't be having A's or getting D either!
