did you read the 5ll and did it get your marriage back on track?
I never read the book, but I got the idea. The LL's are physical touch, word of affirmation, gift giving, acts of service and quality time, as I recall. You're suposed to work with your spouse to figure out in which way he feels loved, and provide that need, rather than give the one that comes most easily to you. In a good relationship, all of these LL's are going on at the same time and are not so out of balance.
I think this book would have been helpful for my marriage before we were in crisis. At the point I came to this board, there wasn't a lot of good will for my H to work with me in this manner. He was pretty much locked into the position that the problem was with me, and I had to break through a lot of defenses.
