This is an article that my C gave me yesterday that really helped me understand relating to W and how us M have a habit of not really listening to the words that are spoken.
I am guilty of going all of this wrong
Listen
When I ask you to listen to me and you start giving me advice, you have not done what I asked.
When I ask you to listen to me and you begin to tell me why I shouldn't feel that way, you are trampling on my feelings.
When I ask you to listen to me, and you feel you have to do something to solve my problem, you have failed me strange as that may seem.
LISTEN! All I ask was that you listen not talk or do just hear me.
Advise is cheap. 50-cents will get you both Dr. Abby and Billy Graham in the same newspaper.
I can do for myself, I'm not helpless-discouraged and faltering maybe, but not helpless.
When you do something for me that I can do for myself, you contribute to my fears and weakness.
But when you accept as a simple fact that I do feel, no matter how irrational, then I can quit trying to convince you, and get about the business of understanding what's behind this irrational fear.
And when that's clear, the answers are obvious and I don't need advice.
Irrational fears make sense when we understand what's behind them.
Perhaps that's why prayer work's-sometimes-for some people.
Sometimes God is mute. He may not give advice or try to fix things.
He listens and lets you work it out for yourself.
So please Listen and just hear me
And if you want to talk, wait a minute for your turn, and then I'll listen to you.
