Thanks for reminding me to stay focused on myself. I know I need to do this, but i feel I need to pay attention to what is going on with H and OW to protect myself.
I am getting more and more concerned with OW trying to "set my up". I looked at his cell phone this morn (I know... I know...) and there was another text from her to H that she got another threatening phone call for her to stay away from my H.
I still think she is making it up, but she has my H convinced that it is true and I would bet my life on it that she also has him convinced I have something to do with it... so not true.
He is distancing himself from me and his attitude towards me is changing. I am just worried she has started something very serious and wants to pin things on me and make trouble for me in which I have done none of these things because she is jealous of me. I have 3 children at home whom she (OW) would never even think twice of putting them in trouble, too. Why can't my H see this? I think she is not a very nice person and could get very nasty.
She is starting things in which i don't want to be involved and I am angry at my H because he could stop this all by breaking it off with her, but he won't. I do not feel safe with him. I feel like he is turning on me. He has stopped telling me anything since I got so angry about her trying to pin her robbed house on me. But I was angry because I would never do anything like that and didn't. And now she is supposedly getting all these threatening calls which the first one I told H she was making it up because she just wanted him to move back in with her. I think she has got him convinced I have something to do with these things, but I don't and would never put myself or my children in that position, he should know that of me by now.
I know I am supposed to be paying attention to me, but I don't want to let my guard down. I am worried she could really start getting nasty with me. And through all of this almost 2 years, I have been pretty nice to her. Why can't my H see everything for what it is? She's got him eating out of her hand again.
This time, some serious stuff I think or maybe am I just to overly worried? I am a worrier. What do you guys think? I am trying to PMA and I am doing things for me, but H is worse than he has been ever before, he is going out just about everyday, not exagerating and doing whatever he pleases without regard to me or his children. I asked him would he like to have dinner with us today, (now mind you he is living at home) and he says, I don't know, I will have to see how my day goes and how I feel. And he looked aggitated I even asked. It's just dinner. He doesn't even eat with us anymore.
I know I can't do or say anything to control him, but the less I say and the nicer I am to him the more advantage he takes of me. I thought this DBusting was supposed to have the opposite effect, unless it is because of all the involvement he is having with OW? She has more pull than I do still, I guess, but I will keep trying for a little bit, yet.
Sorry if I am repeating myself, just venting, too.
Any thoughts would be appretiated. Has anyone had trouble like this from the OW and how did you handle the sith? Thanks.
