Helping her is great but you have to be careful about what you do because it can also come across as "here, let me take care of you because you aren't capable of doing it yourself"

Forget the buying the groceries, that would definitely indicate "you poor soul, you can't afford groceries without me buying them" - as much as it is a wonderful gesture, I as a woman, would be totally embarassed if someone did that to me, regardless of our past relationship. So holdoff on the groceries

Sending the flowers - well maybe. But, once again, no apologies - it sounds too desperate and controlling

How about a very simple flower arrangement (definitely not roses like you said) but a card saying something light like "thinking of you and missing our conversations together" - that might encourage her to call to at least say "thanks" and then you can take the "wanna go out for coffee" as the next step

Heywyre

M - 57
H - 65
1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02
2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06
together 21 years
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