We had a family evening planned. The three of us went to dinner and then to an art show where D16 had a piece of artwork on display. I was happy that we had the start to a nice evening since H will be on business trip the next few days.
After driving into our driveway H says he's going to get cigars. He even told us where he was going since D16 wanted him to pick up something for her. It was just 5 minutes away.
TWO HOURS later he walks into the room and immediately says, "I ran into my brother and had a few beers".
My non DBing response was, "Oh! brother was buying cigars, too?"
It started a fight. I told him I just wish he would have told me he had stopped for a beer (I knew where BIL was because SIL had just been over to our house....just happened to be at the bar where H's "friend" is a waitress on Thursday nights..no where near the cigar store where he said he was going). He says that it shouldn't matter if he goes out and why do I have to act like his mother?
I said it wouldn't matter if he hadn't implied that he'd be gone for a quick trip. I told him I wouldn't have minded if he'd said, "I'm going out for awhile".
I can't figure out why he feels so resentful about telling me his plans. I think it's disrespectful. He doesn't see it that way.
