Flicka you have made me laugh. I thought you just really like the movie...Just kidding...
Iknow you are right I have waited for 4 years already and didn't change anything and that is what got me here today. He kept telling me he had moved ahead with his life and was tired of waiting for me to kick it in gear and catch up with him. I didn't realize what was really going on because I thought he would always love me no matter what. Just like I did him and over look all the stuff i didn't like. What a mistake.
I agree we have to change things to make it better for us. I always thought it was make myself better for him. That isn't the way it is. It is all about you and me. We have to do it for us and move ahead. We can ride the horse and go as fast and as far as we want. Let us take the lead and go. If it is met to be, it will be, and if it isn't there must be another plan for us.
What is your situation. Do you have a thread? Has you H left permently? I think mine has gotten acustom to being on his own and really likes it but then he has all the comforts of me handling things and being the anchor . He will tell me he can handle it then the next thing he is calling to see how to do something or what do I think. I sometimes he thinks I am his best friend instead of his wife. He talks business for the future like I am always going to be here. I decided today I have to decide to do business but also look at it in a way that will better myself too.
I hate it. Do you ever wonder why we have to go through this?
Thnak you for posting. I need all the help and support I can get. There are times it is really really tough as you all know.
Please tell me why you believe you have DB yourself in a never ending Seperation? see ya
