My take on it is that she is feeling a little insecure that the "dream" of you two together has been shattered because of her injury and perhaps she feels like a burden to you and doesn't want to ruin your life

I only say this because I fell into the same trap about 4 years ago when my H and I were in a major car accident. He was not injured as badly as I was and I had to take quite a bit of time off and I still cannot work fulltime. It has taken a toll (to say the least) on our R/M and was (I am sure) just another straw in the pile we were already dealing with

Be gentle with her. Perhaps if she responds to your email you can suggest getting together for coffee or just a light lunch - nothing formal, nothing serious, nothing too lengthy and then you can take it from there.

Heywyre

M - 57
H - 65
1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02
2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06
together 21 years
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Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)