I see so many of my peeps here giving you such great advice. I guess I'm gonna chime in, with something, that a few people know already (sigh)
I had a very close feeling to a male friend, while being seperated from Puffy. I just thougth this male friend was the REAL DEAL. Infatuation, yes I know what you mean.
It was very short lived, nothing was done between us.
It was very wrong, and in the end I was very hurt, so was this man.
Not only was I hurt that my marriage was now over, but i had this other heart break again.
BLEH, it was just to much for Lissie.
I also have 2 children, and I thought this friend of mine, would be a great "dad" to my kids.
I went to church and asked for God's forgiveness.
God, stepped in, and straightened us both out actually.
I am proud to say that the EA never went into PA.
But I see what you are writing, and I felt the same exact way.
I chose not to stand for my marriage, I saw a lawyer, I was ready, to move on. I said I just don't have it in me to wait like you wonderful people on this board.
I was very vulnerable. I still am. So I have decided to do right by my kids.
Get a divorce first, and let my self mourn the loss of a marraige, and you are married alot longer than I am.
So you see lovey, we tell you this with love. I was told too, and guess by who
BND. SHe told me, and she told me, and then she told me some more.
She told me how much she hurt b/c her H was in a EA knee deep.
And I realized, and I finally heard.
Saying to this man, and to your self Let's be friends, is very hard.
Be alone for a while if you can.
Pray, and meditate by your self for a while.
Let the realization of what is happening come over you.
Be still, be calm.
Last edited by Lissett; 04/13/0712:57 AM.
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