Trust me when I tell you this...BND and I do not see eye to eye on a lot of things but she does have a valid point this time. You still seem confused about what you really want and all I wanted to point out is that you need to be sure of your desc and stand behind it, whatever it is.

Maybe I should not be here and saying this but just like BND we all are welcome to voice our opinions.

I am not saying your R with the OM is wrong but you are however still married so technically IMHO it is. Just take things slow with whatever you decide and protect yourself and your kids. That is all I really care about. YOU AND YOU KIDS...

Now as far as standing goes there are varying opinions of what it really means to stand.

Here is my sitch and you will see why I have my opinion on it and I am not totally up todate on your sitch but I just wanted to chime in about standing.

MY STBXW is having an A with a sex offender. She continually took my kids around this turd. I stood as long as I thought I could with everything that was going on. My W has already granted me a reason to get a D (in Gods Eyes) by her acts in the A. However, I still stood until I felt uncomfortable for my kids. Once I hit the point where I felt it was unsafe for my kids, I had to file to get a restraining order to keep the turd away from my kids. Honestly, if it was not for the turd, I would probably still be standing even though my STBXW is a total nut case. Once I decided to file I decided that I was not standing for my M anymore. Nor would I look back because I believe once you are D'ed that it makes your X off limits. Now there are different biblical ways and interpertations of this Idea and all boils down to what you believe in.

Now my point is the following. My idea of standing is to be able to stand in front of God with my desc. and not have to worry about how he will judge me for my actions. I had to do what I had to do for me and my kids. Now why are you moving on?

There is only one person that can judge you...Remember that....Make your desc. accordingly.

Later,
Ben

Ben 32
STBXW 29
3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months)
Status: Fighting for the Kids.

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