My advice is to cut off all ties to your ex in-laws. Have nothing to do with them, and leave it up to your children how much they want to be involved, as long as you don't have to discuss it. Suing may win you some measure of justice, and may I say, revenge. However, in the long run, will probably only make you feel worse. You know what the truth is. Your XH knows the truth, even if he may be in denial, and really, your personal life is none of their business.
So ignore them. Block their numbers from your phone, and your email. Tell your children that you will support them with any decision they make regarding that side of the family, that they should not feel guilty if they do not want to spend more time with them, that it was their choice. And, that you are not keen on discussing those people.
Again, your personal life is none of their business, so if you do happen to speak to them, and they try discussing any personal issues, then tell them to mind their own business, and to not bother contacting you again.
My humble opinion.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim