CM, I understand the resentment as I have been there myself but look closely at what you have posted. You do not want to bring up R issues because things have been going so well yet you are resentful of him for doing the exact same thing. Perhaps he is sitting there thinking "You know, things are going well but I can't shake this issue that she isn't addressing her lack of desire from before."
Either bring up the issues and take the chance that it will cause a step backwards or be willing to give him the same amount of rope that you are giving yourself.
Gone the carvings and those who left their mark. Gone the kings and queens, now only the rats hold sway.
