you are right...it is almost a tease to have these feelings and miss them in your own marriage that it feels good and perks you up...but ultimately it is not a good thing and it is destructive.
Originally Posted By: Greeneyedlass
Runner..
If you do not then you are not focusing all of your energy on fixing your marriage....because there is a part of you reserved for thinking about this "friend", who looks forward to seeing/talking to him etc. That energy needs to go towards your H and your M.
You have a HUGE warning sign in thinking that "the EA is starting I feel." Nip this in the bud NOW. You should most absolutely NOT be sharing intimate details of your marriage (and problems within your marriage are included in that) with ANYONE of the opposite sex unless that person happens to be your therapist.
GEL
And the energy towards my marriage is compromised when i think of the other person when i have my H right next to me.
