NOP, No stones for me but my mother had something like you have. She was miserable several times when I was about 12. Not a pretty sight from what I can remember.
Hope you can have continued relief or improvements w/o reaching in there to retrieve them.
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Thanks, Lou. I am entertaining the idea of jumping down a flight of stairs, one step at a time of course. Maybe I can jostle it loose...
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
I don't envy you because I went through the same thing about 3 months ago (right after the second bomb hit) and, believe it or not, my H went through it right after the first bomb - hmmmm someone trying to tell us something?
When H had his, the nurst in emerg told him "now you know what your wife felt like having kids" and trust me, it comes pretty close (other than the fact the pain subsides a heck of a lot faster once it has passed (the stone that is, not the baby) and stones don't go to college - lol
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
hmmm, I think from now on I will forever link giving birth with passing a kidney stone.
H continues to open up to me...he admitted that he had a tendency to take the easy way out of things, even as far back as when he met me. He knew I was capable and ambitious, and this made him feel less anxious about having the burden of being the provider. When difficult problems arose, it was easier for him to check out and let me deal with things. I enabled things by being overly responsible but inwardly resentful. My contribution is that I was involved in work and then kids and put him lower on the list. Over time, the distance between us reached a breaking point. He is now doing such a good job of stepping forward with himself, and I am able to give him the admiration he has wanted, but I withheld, because of my own resentments towards him. He is really such a nice, warm, loving guy and I am feeling blessed ( at the moment). I can see now that he has some sort of anxiety disorder which he tries to keep hidden...perhaps he was drawn to me initially because I was quite empathic and warm when we first met( we were friends first). Anyway, I have a lot of work ahead to get past the past, and I hope I can do it, so that we can have a future. Overall, he has been happier than I have seen him in years and there's a nice atmosphere in the house. I feel I am coming back to myself as well and have the capacity again to be supportive and caring.
Guys, my H is starting to idolize me. He went to therapy yesterday, came home and told me about the session. He thanked me for getting him help. He told me I am incredibly loving. I am lapping this up but I don't want to be put on a pedestal...we knkow where that will lead. He brought up our trip to Florida, and he said for the first time he could really see the differences in the wiring between our families, and that he doesn't want to be held back like his own father. He admired me for the way I am with his family. He is so appreciative I don't know what to do with it all. I am scared.
Just smile and say "thanks", then don't change anything. The shiny will wear off soon enough. That's not a bad thing.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
Got it, NOPs. Since my last post he called called me 4 times, the last one to tell me to not worry about dinner, he has something special planned for me and the kids. I guess I should just chill and watch the show.
