That's true, they do validate whatever he thinks, and they flatter their egos, and make them seem like they are so perfect. The ow in my case, left messages on his secret cell phone that I was able to from another cell phone figure out his passcode, and listen to and record at least ten messages ow sent to him. They were all either playing on his protective instinct by acting as though people in her neighborhood who were just walking down the street, were up to something and she needed my H to come and check them out, or telling him that she was so proud of how hard he works, and on his off day when he was working at a friends house she would leave him a message about working in the hot sun, and how much she appreciated it, which is weird, because she never saw a dime of his paycheck. I just don't think they think clearly enough to see how ridiculous they are being and how manipulative the ow are. She is D, and my H said her H was cheating on her, and my H said her H wants her back. My H said that I was manipulative, and later he also said even ow was. So, maybe his eyes are beginning to open. The other day I came across my tape player with those messages on it, and I had not listened to any of them since last Sept. and it made me feel sick to my stomach to hear that things voice. I need to put that tape in my safety deposit box I opened to put evidence and extra cash in, should I need it. I am glad Mike can tell us a man's side of this, it does help, don't you think?
I hope you can fill your H's mind and heart with lots of good things to think of while he is gone, and don't forget to send him goody boxes to share with the other guys. And lots of stuff from the kids, and the really sexy photo of you
P.S. Mike, if you can think of anything that we as W's can do to help our H's see us not as the enemy, but as their friend who does care for them, tell us.
