I'm guessing that drama from D threat produces some of the same chemicals that drama from first dates or drama from A's. In some people, drama is the "spice of life."
OTOH, regular sex can produce a "ho hum" no-drama type feeling in those same people.
Of course, it very well could be that your drive during D bomb was just much higher than you would be naturally, so you are just setting into what your body is most comfortable with.
Would your H be willing to spice things up a bit?
JM2C
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