This may come across as facetious, but I don't mean it to be. Its hard to communicate effectively sometimes with just words.
If I want my W to go from someone who is not affectionate with anyone, doesn't care about making sex fun or frequent, would rather just sit at home and visit with family to someone who is overtly affectionate with me, wants to have fun and frequent sex, and is willing to explore the world, how would you categorize that? Would it not really be asking them to "change who they are?"
I guess what Fearless has been saying to me makes sense. I have been dodging the truth too much, phrasing it as "learning new skills" or "changing the R not the person" or even "getting rid of all the false layers to become who you truly are." But shouldn't people, as committed life partners, be willing to change things about ourselves to make the M work? That is what I have been doing (although not entirely successfully) with my self-esteem work. I'd like to think that what I am doing is finally being true to myself, but effectively I have changed how I act, speak, and feel. And considering I have ALWAYS had low self-esteem, this really is a change from who I was.
Again, I really don't intend this to come across whiny or facetious. I am just searching for the right way to wrap my mind around these concepts.
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
