I completely agree with you it's not about "changing" yourself. You can improve your marriage drastically...and still stay true to who you are. It's about looking inside yourself to see what you can improve within your marriage....from your side, and taking accountability for that, then working on it as YOU can. It's about really taking a close look at yourself to see "am I really doing what it takes to meet his needs?"...those aren't changes, that's just self analysis and self-awareness within the marriage. It's also about not hiding your true feelings, not being afraid to speak up in your own marriage, and asking for what YOU need too....communication.
Those are the same things we tell men to do as well.
