Has anyone recommended the book "The Five Love Languages" to you yet? If not, check it out...it's a quick read and pretty enlightening. Might give you a place to begin looking at what needs (besides sex...and including it) are going unmet for your H and help build some intimacy.
There's also a quiz for each of you. If you think he'd take it great, let him...take yours too. Our MC also gave us copies of the quiz for our spouse and had us take them and see if we were anywhere close in what WE thought their love languages were. My H and I were actually pretty close, but it was informative because it also gave us a place to start a discussion on WHY they were needs for us....and what each of us would perceive as the other filling that need (specifically).
Once you identify his needs...then you can attempt to fill them.
GEL
I appreciate your time GEL, you have been very proactive in this for me...and it helps to hear all the advice. I will start the book. Did it help your situation?
