OK...

I have thought long and hard about this and I really don't care if I get yelled at AGAIN for posting this but I am going to anyway.

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I feel bad that I can't stand for the sake of my children. I am not going to rush into anything but I can't let this chance slip away. In all these years, I have never met another man who I felt compatible with as I always have with this man.


What you are feeling is just a feeling.
I am sorry but you are NOT in love with this man and you are fooling yourself into believing you are.

This new love of your life is simply a bandaid.

Maybe you too are having a mini MLC of sorts?

It is so funny how we know all of the MLC lingo when it comes to our Spouses but when it happens to us we think we are so damn different.

When we were rejected by our Spouses and they had OW/OM and our self esteem was down the toilet we became vulnerable to the opposite sex.

We just want someone to pay some attention to us and make us feel loved and worthy again. And it is so easy to rationalize all of this stuff. I mean, if our WAS did this then we have the right to do it too.

I am sorry to be a downer but I think you have not even had enough time to deal with any issues from the demise of your marriage, nor have you made any personal changes that would stop you from bringing baggage into your next relationship.

If you continue to keep sweeping the crap under the rug eventually there will be a huge pile of junk under there and you will again be faced with the reality of the same problems and then some.

But you are an adult, you can make your own choices good or bad. You are the one who has to explain to your children why you are following this path.

Standing is hard.
It is not for the weak of heart or for those who have no faith that the MLC will eventually be over. Of course there are no guarantees, but I do believe that if you have been married for 23 years and are so willing to move on to someone else after professing your love for your Husband every day on these boards for the past couple of months I have to go with the fact that this new man in your life is merely a good distraction and an escape from reality for you.

Take care of yourself and again try to keep both feet planted firmly on the ground.


(((((((Faith)))))))

There can be no testimony without a test.
I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.