Your h is an jerk. Plain and simple. I was 'involved' with one for 8 years...so I know what I am talking about. Your h said the same things to you that my 'ex' said to me. It was uncanny when I read your posts. They aren't happy. Only living in their narcissistic SP world. A strange place full of drama and certainly all about them.
I am sorry that this has happened to you. Take care of youself financially. Request more than enough...he may just give it to you so he can look like a 'good guy.'
You will find that there is life after this. A good life for yourself whether it involves someone new or not. I do understand the desire to run away but we can't...LOL. We will stand strong for our children. I like to look at it as not wanting to run away but having the chance for a 'do over.' My ex said he wished we could start over but with what I know now about him I would not want a 'do over' with him.
I am seeing a nice man but not sure where it will lead. BUT, I am doing it my way and we shall see. Setting boundaries for yourself with h or anyone else is empowering. Seeing a good T is always good even under normal circumstances.
I know how you are feeling...it is gut-wrenching. I lived through it. It just about killed me but here I am. None of it was worth the pain or heartache. I find it sad that someone robbed me of my happiness for so long.
I have tried in a nice way to let him know that I never want to hear from him again. He is so self-absorbed that he can't even hear the meaning behind the words.
Don't believe for a second that things will be any different with his gf. He will continue to operate in the same fashion that he always has. The poor thing has to deal with him now.
Take care of Nicola and know that you now have the chance for something good for yourself. Take your time. You will discover that being by yourself is much better than living with a narcissitic fool.
