He said he's seeing someone new

[Hope_11]

Are most people on this board still wearing their rings? ... I absolutely don't mean to offend you, because I do truly wish I still had my rings on right now, but out of curiosity, at what point will you take them off, if ever?

I took my wedding ring off pretty early on after we separated, but I didn't want to not wear a ring, so I went ahead and bought myself a cheap wedding band to wear. I was wearing the band, and then when my H decided to come home, I put my wedding ring back on for a few weeks and when he changed his mind, I decided that there was no hope so I wasn't going to wear anything. I didn't wear any sort of ring for over a month, but then I decided that I was still married and I was going to wear a ring. I guess I sort of use the ring to symbolize how I feel about our relationship at the time, on again, off again.

I completely agree with both of you on the difficulty of the il relationship. My H has a huge family and we were always closer with his family than mine, so to lose them to is a big deal to me. However, I think that my situation might be a little different. Most of my ils have been there for me. My H has refused all help from them, so they feel like the only way that they can make this situation better is to be there for me and help me. I am lucky in that aspect that I have a lot of people that care. My mil has been a lifesaver. I practically talk to her every day. She is absolutely disgusted by her son's behavior and she will not disown him but she is definately not going to stand at his side when he behaving so selfishly. One week after my H and I got back together, he decided to bring the OW to meet his parents (I didn't find out about this until weeks later). He did not warn them ahead of time and my mil said she almost hit the ground when the OW walked in with my H. She said that she did not talk to her at all when she was there. My mil only made one comment to her and that was "and what are you doing living with a married man? It is wrong" My mil said that she didn't even look at the OW and that the OW will never be a part of her life, so Ophelia there may be a chance that your mil thinks the same about the OW as you do. I know that my mil believes that OW ruined her son's life.