You said some really insightful and beautiful things. Maybe in the end it IS that simple... the thin is we humans are complicated creatures and dont quite know what to do with that simplicity.
IMHO what you wrote is a reflection of acceptance and letting go and giving both you and your H "permission" to flow with where life takes each of you.
big hug,
brava
Me: 36 He: 34 no kids Married: 2000 He left: July 05