I can't stand anymore

[missmyfriend]

HalfMissing, this man may be the right person for you. Make sure that you take the same time you would if you were not in this situation, i.e. you are a single woman who was interested in dating a single man but for one reason or another the two of you did not start a R. If you were to start a R, you would go through the normal dating rituals, getting to know each other as a potential mate, ensure compatibility, etc. Right now, you are both hurting and looking to fill the emptiness you feel.

He is missing his deceased wife and misses the companionship that he had with her and you have been hurt to the core by your husband and feel an emptiness that is terrible. It "makes sense" that the two of you come together and start something to ease your individual and separate pain. In any R, you want both to want to be together for real reasons and not to heal a broken heart.

If the two of you can say honestly that neither of you are trying to soothe your own pain, then it sounds as though this R could be a good thing. If it is to help reduce the pain each are feeling, it will block real feelings for each other. When the pain subsides over time, the relationship needs something more to keep it going. His talking about marriage with you before you two have ever dated "may" imply that he is still grieving his loss and that he only felt complete when he was married.

You are an adult and can make your own decisions as to whether the two of you should date and consider marriage. No one here should tell you what you should do or make you feel "guilty" about not standing. Standing is an individual decision. No one should judge for the time served for standing. You were faithful to your husband. He was not faithful. My faith says adultery is a reason to say the marriage is over, if one wishes.

You are in my prayers!