He said he's seeing someone new

[phoenix23]

I agree with writing the letter. I stopped by to visit my IL's a few weeks ago because they were going on vacation to Europe for a month. I hadn't seen them in quite a while, although my mom had talked on the phone to MIL once or twice - I'm sure those were awkward conversations - and my mom sensed that MIL would love to hear from me but couldn't bring herself to call me up because she just didn't know what to say and felt so awful about the situation.

So I bit the bullet and stopped by, and had a good visit with the IL's. They both gave me a huge hug at the end (very odd as FIL is not a demonstrative man at all), and promised to email me on their holiday, which they did, a couple weeks later.

The point of that long ramble was that I'm sure your IL's are missing you as much as you are missing them, particularly as it sounds like you had a very close relationship with your MIL.
It may be that you will have to be the one to keep initiating contact, though, because they probably don't have a clue how to handle the situation with your H, the OW, you etc. But I think letting them know you miss them and encouraging continued contact would probably be as benenficial to them as it is to you.

And I can sure understand your feelings about resigning yourself to spending the rest of your life alone. I almost feel like that would be better than ever taking a chance on love again, and more than that, I just don't think I'd be capable of loving anyone properly anymore. I feel like I gave my whole heart away to my H - there's nothing left in there for someone new.

Ophelia - you're still wearing your wedding rings. Are most people on this board still wearing their rings? I ask because I took mine off about a week after H moved out - after I found out that he had messed around with OW six days after moving out, having promised me that nothing was going to happen with her, at least not for now. A few weeks later he made a comment about how it had upset him that I'd taken them off. I regretted it, but by then it was too late to put them back on, I guess. And I also felt so foolish walking around wearing these rings he had given me as a symbol of our committment and love when he was sleeping with another woman. I absolutely don't mean to offend you, because I do truly wish I still had my rings on right now, but out of curiosity, at what point will you take them off, if ever?