Being, I took some time to read and catch-up with your thread.
It looks like you and your H are polarized around the intimacy issue. ML only every two months is certainly a problem. I'm also concerned that he dropped-out of MC.
I'm not sure what the problem is. It sounds like your anger/resentment are building to the point where you can no longer piece this issue in a good frame-of-mind.
Is he avoidant of working on these issues? Are your expectations too high? Is he willing to make small steps? Is there something about the way you approach him that's influencing his avoidance around this issue? Is it safe for him to work on these issues?
Is he working on making a connection with you in nonsexual ways? Is this the place to start making changes, and work into sex? You had mentioned that you were bored with dinners and movies. Do you have any ideas, that would get you two out of the dating rut? Would he take dance lessons with you?
I noticed in an earlier post, that during a R talk, he told you how difficult it was to face conflict. You failed to validate this problem for him, and stated that he shouldn't be afraid of you. I saw this as a positive that he was telling you this. It seems to me that you need to help him face conflict, rather than dismiss it.
Are you being objective about his versus your role in the intimacy problems? Many of your posts seem to have a blaming quality to it.
I'm not sure if your situation is one where you're DB as well as can be done, or if you were to make some changes, he would respond differently, or if this is truly 100% his issue and his level of motivation to change is low.
You seem to have made great strides in GAL, and probably in other areas as well. I wonder if there's a different way of relating to him that might get a different response--assuming he has some motivation to change?
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
