Typical of you CeMar...you haven't seen it on THIS thread...but it's all over these BB threads.
Did you happen to notice that no one disagreed with your advice to her? Of course not. But you've ABSOLUTELY avoided someone else challenging YOU to take your own advice. Advice that you seem to deem good enough to give to another person on here.
If you aren't willing to take your own advice and apply it to yourself in your own marriage, then why should runner? Honestly..why should she? You sit back and wait for your W to make the first move, so...why shouldn't she sit back and wait for her H to make the first move? If you aren't willing to meet your W's needs unconditionally (as her needs exist for HER, not as you perceive they should be) then, why should this woman do the same for her H? You are telling someone else the same things we've been telling you...but you won't do them, yet...you tell her to do these things in her marriage. Just doesn't make sense CeMar.
FWIW Runner...because YOU recognize the issue it's not wise to sit back and wait for your H to do things. You recognize the issue so you should step up and address it, by as you said communicating and trying things.
