My marriage feels hopeless

[Yoyowife]

I see taking your girls on vacation w/o wife's knowledge as trying to get even. I'm not sure it's a wise decision. She could turn around and try to do the same thing to you. I think it would be best to inform her. I do understand that they are children, but you do not want to get in a power struggle with her. I think you could approach it as you said, it's a way for you to get away and time for her to have time to herself. I know that we all have been hurt so bad, but if we want to stand for our marriages, we can't burn our bridges.