As for the divorce question - are you getting child support from him? Do you have a legal separation? If you do, then I guess divorce isn't such an issue - but if you're not legally separated, I'd be worried about whether you're protected from his debts, whether he's obligated to provide health insurance for the kids, etc. I recommend you get some legal advice to find out what your liabilities are. (For instance - if he doesn't pay his income taxes - will the government come after you?).
Doesn't he have family who would know where he is? Why would it be so hard to locate him? Unfortunately, it might get harder, not easier, to locate him in the future if he's still whacked out. Does he still work for the same company?
Not saying that you need to pursue divorce at this time - but I can't remember if you're legally separated, if you're not, you need to be for your own protection, given how whacked he is.
Now - on to the University of You. What are your plans, girl? Your dreams?
