I've done everything I can think of and he will if I initiate but 8 mos ago I told him I would never initiate ever again. And so ended my once a month if that sexlife(if you can even call it that).
So I guess that was a dumb idea was'nt it? Maybe you should initiate again.
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I am very resentful and angry. I have thought of leaving or just having an affair but I feel guilty and can't. I just don't know what to do. I believe divorce is wrong but I also feel that keeping sex from your partner is a sin. I won't use that as an excuse to do anything wrong but I'm very angry that he's doing this. He doesn't even make an effort to try to get help. I'm tired of trying and very close to giving up on the marriage.
Oh I feel your pain. It's a really stinky position to be in. I don't blame you for wanting out, or giving up. But if you do give up, then you'll never know if you could have worked it out. If you don't try something new and different then you'll never know if it might work. If you don't hang on, fight to the death, then you'll not taste victory. This is one hell of a game we're playing here. It'll take every last ounce of energy we have. Is it worth it? We won't know until we've tried.
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I am not even feeling attracted to him anymore and don't really want to have sex w/him but do want sex.
Therein may be part of the problem. Maybe he senses that. Maybe you need to try a new attitude. Just try some new things and see what has a positive affect, then keep doing that. Stop doing the same old things that have negative results.
Hang in there girl!
God Bless,
COG
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