My marriage feels hopeless

[Yoyowife]

I agree that you did the right thing also. In my situation it was the OWH that confirmed my suspicians of the the affair. He hired a PI because he is seeking custody of S8. He even offered to let me see the video of my H sneaking to her house. I told him no, that it would be too hard. The OWH would call me everytime my H would sneak to her house. This would be late at night sometimes even after I had fallen asleep. All this would do is upset me and prevent me from falling asleep the rest of the night. I got where I would turn the ringer off of my phone. I knew it was going on and we wouldn't be able to change it. During this time my H was on the fence. I would tell the OWH that my H was still coming around. A lot of time he knew this because they were checking out my house at times also! The PI told OWH that my H was just leading me on so that I wouldn't take him to the cleaners. I would rather believe that he is mixed up and doesn't know what he wants. I recommended DB and DR to the OWH as well. He said he ordered it last time I talked to him. Our lives certainly turn into soap operas, don't they?!!!