In your prior post, you listed 4 things that you want from your husband. You need:
1. I'd like to hear him compliment what i do in a day...more often... 2. I'd like him to work on his parenting and be positive...and work on being creative rather than taking the easy approach of just yelling at them. They just want him to be involved with them...and I imagine he just wants to sit and relax and read the paper or watch the news. 3. He will relieve me if I ask....but I guess I don't really have the opportunity or circle to go out and unwind. Not many moms do this....because of "family". Or the ones that do...are just out on the prowl. 4. He now is impressed with my weight loss...but my feellings changed in that first yr when he was oblivious to it
But your husband ALSO has needs, likely he wants to feel attractive to you, to have your desire(physically) for him.
So you two are stuck, waiting for the other to go first. Things must change for BOTH of you. Your needs are NOT more important then his. So one of you must go first. YOU GO FIRST! Meet his needs FIRST. Meet his needs UNCONTIONALLY, just as you expect him to meet YOURS unconditionally. Once you start assigning CONDITIONS to your desiring him, then he can set conditions on meeting your needs on the list of 4, and you are both stuck again.
