NEW THREAD FOR 2940 --- HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[believing_isaiah43]

Warning: 2x4 Ahead

You know, you are just killing any chance you have here. Asking him for a hug? Asking him when he's coming home? WTF? He TOLD you that you were "trapping him in his office" and you stayed there? I cringed when I read your post.

Do you not think we ALL wanted to do that? That it's EASY to do what we're telling you? IT'S NOT EASY. IT'S THE MOST FCUKING DIFFICULT THING IN THE WHOLE WORLD. For ALL of us who love our spouses. NOT just you. I promise you that. There are days I do not want to get out of bed, and my H is home. There just isn't enough Xanax in the world to make it all go away, honey.

But you HAVE to reign it in. HAVE to.

How appealing is a person who hovers? Who is all in your business? Who keeps trying to see where you are emotionally? Who is trying to SMOTHER you b/c they can't handle things without you? If you were dating a guy like you acted in your last post, you would quit answering the phone when he called.

Girl, I have been that person with my H. I understand what it feels like to be so emotionally desperate. I DO.

You can get all the great advice that these people are spending dispensing, but it's ultimately your CHOICE to ignore it.

This board is full of hurting, sharing, caring people, who come out of their own pain and try to help others. They are spending time with you; precious time reading and responding to each post. Please respect them, and yourself, by LISTENING and ACTING on what they are TELLING YOU.

I've been on this board for almost a year now (sigh) and I am no poster child for how to act, I assure you. Everybody struggles emotionally at times, but there is a fundamental difference between those who 'get it' and those who understand yet don't apply it. Not all of those who 'get it' save their M's, but they are so much happier in the end either way. At this point, you have nothing to lose by changing your behavior. Please do it.