Mom2, This argument sounds like some my H and I would have had in the very beginning too. My H is the MASTER at making me feel guilty, or should I say WAS the master at making me feel guilty. I don't let him do it anymore. He has always been a master manipulator with people and I knew this. He never really tried it with me until MLC, but I knew how he worked and could see him do it to people at work. MCLer's will try to turn everything so it's your fault. You know this. They all do it. Don't feel guilty. They are constantly looking for fuel to validate their point. Just be the better person in this and don't give him that type of fuel anymore. It takes the wind right out of their sails if you're nice to them.
MY D's practices are all set at the beginning of the season. I just gave my H a schedule of all of them. Do something like this if possible that way you don't have to call him and potentially get into an argument.
MY H told me once that when he didn't answer me in arguments it was because he knew I was right, but that he didn't want to admit that to me and he couldn't say anything to contradict my argument so he just didn't say anything.
Like ANewMe says, just figure out what you could have done better and try to do it next time. This is not the end of the world.
There is only one person who could ever make you happy, and that person is you. David Burns, Intimate Connections
