How do you do it? I have a similar sitch as yours, married 15 yrs and have sex very seldom. last time(this time) was 8 mos ago and it's killing me. he has no desire at all. I've done everything I can think of and he will if I initiate but 8 mos ago I told him I would never initiate ever again. And so ended my once a month if that sexlife(if you can even call it that). I am very resentful and angry. I have thought of leaving or just having an affair but I feel guilty and can't. I am not even feeling attracted to him anymore and don't really want to have sex w/him but do want sex. I just don't know what to do. I believe divorce is wrong but I also feel that keeping sex from your partner is a sin. I won't use that as an excuse to do anything wrong but I'm very angry that he's doing this. He doesn't even make an effort to try to get help. I'm tired of trying and very close to giving up on the marriage.
