Nice to see your post. I was wondering how you were doing. I'm sorry things aren't going as well as you'd hoped. I said it before and I'll say it again, I think you're level of expectation is too high. He's going to have to settle into things a bit.
Also, this is a good lesson for those wanting to literally get back together as quickly as possible. It can be difficult and while the WAS is gone it seems like what you'd want, but there are a lot of issues to deal with and because they can't all be addressed and resolved at once, many of them are left hanging around, tripping up both parties, and making progress that much more difficult.
My best to you as you discover these pitfalls and work to move beyond them.
