Have you had a good night's sleep yet? Life always looks a good deal more managable when you see it through the lense of a good 8 to 12 hours of sleep.
So what happened at Easter? Did he come and ask you to go to family easter? Nice work. Although, he is so in denial isn't he? Poor lamb - he just doesn't know what he's doing and rather than really looking at what's going on around him, he's just got his head in the sand, doing whatever he can so as not to make waves.
I wonder if you are 'enabling' his denial? This is just something that I'm throwing out there, I don't know if you are or not, but I wonder about how he's able to just go to his family's place and you'll play along with him that nothing's wrong and he gets off scott free, then assauges his guilt by doing jobs around the house - but then goes off to OWs or where ever anyway? Do you know what I mean?
Good work on not interrogating him. I know that the 'perfect' DBer is supposed to be made of stone, and not ask any questions, but I think you did pretty well for the 'human' version.
I suspect he was so amiable to agreeing that you guys would be OK because you have been doing so well at DBing. He's not scared of you, he has felt that you've been making yourself less available to him and it's working. Remember when he said he didn't want to work on your marriage, was after you had been really into him and clingy and stuff - but he's said that he'll work on it, after you've been applying the DB principles. More proof that he's not made of stone, and perhaps not overtly, but intuitively he's noticing what's going on.
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At any rate, it bothered me a bit both that I felt like she was kind of pushing me to say I don't really want to be with him (she said "he IS a cheater - think about that").
She's not earning her fee unless she's making you uncomfortable and bothered. Her job is to ask you the hard questions. You don't have to like them, but you do have to explore them.
Keep at it Miss 2940831. You are doing well.
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Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.
