It's kind of a long story, but I got withdrawn, she got cranky and clingy, I got more withdrawn, EC & SL dwindled, we're both unhappy. Then I start to face my issues (ADHD, long habit of avoidance due to constantly getting in trouble for ADHD & general social awkwardness), seek counseling and medication, and show some improvement. She starts a workout plan, drags me along, and we both get less cranky and more healthy and sexy and gradually reconnect. SL sputters until "sexual side effects" from medication get too blatant to ignore, then more medication clears that up and SL & EC go into overdrive. Life is good for now, although I still need to find a medication regime that gets ADHD more under control without sending my heartrate sky-high in the middle of the night, and I still have to resist the temptation to withdraw and/or avoid conflict whenever anything goes wrong.
As for which one of us was "LD", I would say both of us. I think she would have liked to have it a little more often than we did, but other issues were definitely bothering her more than that, while I was too depressed and anti-social and anxious to really enjoy being with her.
Originally Posted By: runner26.2
I have some thinking to do. Poor guy...he is just being the husband and working and trying to be a successful business man...and I have a really nice life. I guess the basic needs that i feel are missing are the attentive needs rather than the physical...
We all crave attention, of course, and you have every right to expect some from the man you married. How much? You'll have to work with him on that. Good luck!
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