The only thing I do not understand in your post is the "what am I doing wrong?" I am a good father etc.
Sorry...I recognized the confusion when I rread it a few minutes back...that was me saying that you wer edoing nothing wrong in those things...showing how you are being SuperDad.
Definitely see a counselor. Books are great, but you need some help putting what you read into action...and going through your own personal issues and challenges that will arise as you try to put a books advice into action.
