He is leaving to be alone to THINK - now what?

[Heartbroken]

Hello!

Well when my H was 'feeling' me out on where I stood - he said "I am done thinking about filing (for D)' and then asked what my feelings were on filing. This is how he started to let me know he was emotionally done with her - he just needed to figure out how to let her down 'gently' WTH??? And my emotions were again put on the back burner for another weekend with the OW. He told me 3/8 he was done and just needed to get rid of her which happened 3/12 - though she still txt once called three sep. times and emailed once - he did talk two times on the phone with her. I finally said if she calls again he is to tell her we were reconciling.

I agree with Olive - prepare for the WORST and then maybe you will be surprised with the best. These WAS just are so messed up and they really don't want to hurt either party - yet it hurts us all. Too bad people cannot see the pain prior to even thinking about starting an A - it could prevent soooooo much agony. My H says it was so not worth it now and he wishes we could go back and be the fun foursome of friends we all were.. him, Ow, Ow ex and me - they really got the most hurt out of all of this. She filed and they are now D and it scares the sh*t out of me how close we came to being done.

Whatever your H tells you - try to take the high road as much as you can - it will be worth it in the end. When I busted my H for bringing that skank into our home (I was out of town w/the kids) I was never so hurt and angry yet within 5 mins I still told him I was not going to file for D - he needed to get out and figure it out and convince me why we should D and that I would not even consider filing for 4-6 mos. I would have waited a minimum of a year - then who knows I probably would have kept on waiting. This is easier to say now b/c OW has been gone for over a month now. If she were still doing sleepovers at his apt i might have ended a lot sooner than a year.

I wish you the best! You will become a better person b/c of all of this - I have!!