Ya me saying I'm going for a drive really got to him
Well if that got to him, what would happen if you said you wanted to get away for a weekend, just YOU wanting a little space. He'd probably tear your clothes off when you got home!
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other than the 4 months or more he travelled back and forth every week to see her without me knowing (agggrrrrr)
Oh will you PLEASE get over it! I know it hurt, I know it pissed you off, but it's water under the bridge. You've got to drop that burden, for YOUR own sake and sanity.
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I know you said "don't snoop" but that is a tough one for me.
Well ya gotta toughen up because snooping is not good for YOU! The most experienced people on this board will tell you it's a dead end street. Obviously if you suspect he's cheating again, and it's fairly obvious that's different. But searching for evidence is not a healthy thing to do.
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Basically what he did was convince her how flippin' gullible 60 year old men are - sheesh
Hee Hee, you are right on the money with that one. But please try to forgive him for being so stupid. Trust that HE feels much stupider that you'll ever make him feel. I'll bet it would make him feel pretty good to know that you've forgiven him, and that you understand him.
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Sounds like you will be getting it a heck of a lot sooner than me
Oh I would'nt bet on it. My W is a friggin ROCK. I asked her last night if she thought her lack of desire might be chemical. She responded a very confident no. So I chuckled and finished her statement with "it's just a lack of desire for COG". She chuckled back and said, "well it sounds pretty bad when you say it that way". And I said "well that's a bummer because I don't lack desire, and some lucky woman is going to end up real happy some day". Then there was silence, and then came sleep.
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however, it might deflate the little guy when I tell him there will be no action until he gets a check up from the doc).
Oh don't worry they deflate and inflate and deflate and inflate. Making him wait might even create a little more desire. Just one other thing. When you face him with the news that you want him to get checked out, please do it in a way like his best friend would do it, instead of like his MOTHER!
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Why doesn't my H like to kiss.
I think you ought to ask HIM. My gut feeling is that his desire for you is low, so everything is low. As his desire grows, then his desire to kiss will grow, it'll coincide with the rising of his penis.
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I know "they" say escorts don't kiss but I know for a fact that one of the "specialties" of the last one he was with (and she advertises it on her website) is DFK (deep french kissing) but its not like I can tell him I found that out
You're obsessing again, STOP!
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Do you think it's an appropriate question to ask about the A? What they did (within reason that is)
NO! STOP! DON'T JUMP! Just forgive and forget, let it GO! Don't ask. Based on other people I've read from here, you'll probably not want to know the answer. Just move on with your life. Concentrate on healing, letting go, forgiving, and starting new. Find a good book on healing after infedility, there are tons of them out there.
You're doing great, stay strong!
Love,
COG
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