Can someone please fill me in, in more detail, about EA's. I know they are sometimes worse than PA's. Just my opinion/guess, if PA'a are only about sex and the emotional connections/bondings are not strong, then the PA might be easier to give up if some other woman makes a stronger emotional connection and also provides sex.
I can see/imagine an EA with almost all shared values in sync with each other being difficult to give up if yur H was looking a emotional connection that was very strong.
Said if we kept going the way we were, didn't think he could be faithful. That sounded like a call for help. Some guys leave then tell you why. He is telling you before hand things are not right from his POV. ask him what part of the M and R is important.
To open this area up to a conversation and some real work, both of you could go over the questionaires (print out 3 sets- yours orivate, his private, combined after each of you do your own) on the marriage builder's site (click on the links on the left side of the page) http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi4500_resource.html
Anyway, this OW he says is a "friend," although he "started to like her," So, that is one big clue. I think you said you were being his friend to patch things up. A very good first step.
If you two could do the questionaires as "friends" that might help. If you do them as "this is what is wrong with you" don't do them.
I'm paving the road for, when he is gone and has time to think things over, he looks back and sees how good things really are WITH ME/family (3 little boys). I hope this is something that will make hin work on the M CD34. It would be for me.
