Could Use Some Input Over here

[RedHeadWife]

Ok, and this is being totally honest, I will and can own up to all of the reasons he started the EA, but since the D bomb, I have completely been striving to change and have changed all of those reasons in our M.

We ML usually every other day, if not more often than that, I am affectionate, loving, I will just give him a kiss on the back of the neck or just touch him when I walk by, I talk to him about his interests and work, I make sure we have "us" time, just the 2 of us, no children -- either dates or just making sure I stay up after the boys go to bed and spend quality time w/ him either talking or watching a movie together, etc.

I know he talked to her about our M and how bad things were, etc. Then he began to "like" her. Like I said I know, at least awhile ago, she was trying to get back w/ her ex (boyfriend I think, but dad of her child) and don't know what the status is of that. I don't know what he is telling her now about our M and I guess that's what bothers me the most, but then I think if he is still telling her it's bad between us when it's not, etc., he is going to start feeling guilty about that.

I just don't know what he needs to be talking to her about when I feel like I am truly giving him everything he needs. I'm just afraid that, when he's deployed, he is going to be talking to her on the phone, etc. for hours on end @ night instead of ME!!

I also don't want to ask him about it b/c I'm afraid of rocking the boat. We are still at a very touchy point in getting our M back together, you know?