I think maybe that you are fcusing too much on weather he orgasams. I am HD and my goal is NOT the orgasam. Heck, it is not even the sex. The goal is to have a woman that WANTS ME. How a woman wants can come in many ways, but the key is it must be something physical in nature, IT DOES NOT HAVE TO BE SEX. It is all about DESIRE, sex is only one physical way that Desire is expressed. THere are MANY physcial things that can be done that would make him feel like a million bucks that don't involve orgasams.
