Could Use Some Input Over here

[RedHeadWife]

No one over in "cheating" has any comments for me, so I'm going to post this here -- any insights/input, etc.? H is still talking to OW/EA daily at least once. Yes, I snooped -- looked @ incoming/outgoing calls on cell. He has a history of EA's. 2 a long time ago while deployed (left feeling neglected, had not bothered to talk to me about it -- after 1st child). Had a PA/one night stand several years ago as well (again, while deployed). He is leaving May 1 for a year deployment. Dropped D bomb back in January. Said if we kept going the way we were, didn't think he could be faithful.

As I said, the last 2 wks or so have been very good. He has definitely started coming around. I felt some pulling back in him this a.m., but I could just be reading into the fact that he isn't feeling well/tired.

Can someone please fill me in, in more detail, about EA's. I know they are sometimes worse than PA's. I guess (and I know I probably will never understand or know) I don't understand/know what she is giving him that I'm not. Or what they talk about that is so important. He does work w/ her, but I don't think they are just talking shop.

I have not asked him about it, nor do I intend to, b/c right now my mission is to make sure we are as healthy as we can be before he leaves / I'm paving the road for, when he is gone and has time to think things over, he looks back and sees how good things really are WITH ME/family (3 little boys).

Anyway, this OW he says is a "friend," although he "started to like her," but never PA. He talked to her about our M, etc. I also know she was/hopefully still is trying to get back w/ her ex so I suppose they talk(ed) about that too. I don't know what her status is w/ ex or anyone else in her life. Can someone give me some insight into this? Thoughts? Advice on how to deal w/ this? Thanks.