Gracey, it is very difficult the first few months when all the emotions are going full force. Sorry to be so frank, but it's probably not a good idea to push for D at this point just because both of your emotions are going all over the place. There is no hurry for a divorce. I would just use the lawyer to protect certain financial stuff quickly so he does not spend all the money, but would leave D out first (is that possible to do? not sure). Give yourself six months to calm down. same for h. Then both of you can decide what to do next. Meanwhile, you can start reading.
take care.
M 38, H 38, two sons Met 20 years ago Married 13 years Bomb: Oct, 2006 DB: Started in Dec, 2006 H moved out for 3 weeks in Mar, 2007 H back home and piecing?
