Hi newjourney-

I know that a part of me doesn't like how he is short tempered with the kids. That is a real problem and I told him that is the most unattractive thing. And I guess the only thing I can think of is ...trying to pinpoint when this lack of feeling occurred. It was two yrs ago and I felt invisible. I lost l;ike 40 pounds after our third child and went to a size 2...and he didn't really make me feel good. "10 yr anniversary I wore a black halter dress..and is first response was "you are wearing that? All I am wearing is golf shorts and a shirt? We don't have to get so dressed up.:"

Now I have been at home with the kids and feeling like I need to get out and felt good about my weight loss...and that wasn't what I wanted to hear.

Other people noticed me...and that stirred up feelings...i didn't seek the feelings out.