Imlin, I'm sorry your H is acting this way. You have been here for so many people and I hate that you are going through this.
I don't mean to make light of your complaints of your H's eating, but it reminded me of a joke. I think we all need humor once in a while.
There once were three men working construction on a high rise, a mexican, an irish man, and a polish man. They were sitting on a high beam eating their lunch. The mexican opened his lunch and said "Oh, not not a burrito again. If my lunch has a burrito in it tomorrow I will jump off and kill myself." The irish man opened his lunch and said "Corned Beef again, I hate Corned Beef. If it's in my lunch tomorrow, I will jump too." The polish man open his lunch and said " I have polish sausage. I hate them. If I have the same lunch tomorrow I will jump too." Well the next day the construction men opened up their lunches and had the very same lunches as the day before. And true to their words they all jumped to their deaths. Their funerals were all held the same day. The widow of the mexican said "If I'd only known how much he hated burritos I would have fixed something else." The Irish widow said " Why didn't he tell me he hated corned beef." They both looked at the Polish widow and she said " Why are you looking at me? I didn't fix his lunch!"
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon