I just had a thought as i was out working tonight. a friend gave me a book to read called "Emotional Blackmail" by Susan Forward.
Please get it and read it. It fits all of us one way or another. We all use it at one time or another but some people abuse it more than others. Like our H. I think if you haven't read it Please do. Like my friend told me not all of it will fit but some of it does. Pick and choose. I have given it to some friends of mine and they are showing it to there other friends too.
I hope it might help Please let me know. Hang in there.
